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How to Avoid Negative People

There’s an old saying, “Birds of a feather flock together.” The reasoning behind this is that we tend to become like the people we hang out with.

If you’re around “cannot, should not, and do not” people, then you’ll constantly be discouraged and depressed. Instead, surround yourself with visionaries and those who can inspire and motivate you so you can, should, and do take action.
  • Following your intuition can be an effective way of weeding out negative people early on upon meeting them.
Here are some body language signs to look out for when you meet new people:
  •  A sick or uncomfortable feeling forms in the pit of your stomach.
  •  The hair on the back of your neck stands on end.
  •  Your skin crawls and you feel jumpy and adverse to touch.
  • Your shoulder muscles knot up and your throat and chest constrict.
  •  You feel a sense of pressure, agitation, or darkness.
  • You feel physically, mentally, or emotionally drained after meeting the individual.
These symptoms may be your body’s way of telling you to stay clear of this person. You may leave their presence feeling depressed and discouraged because all you’ve heard is complaining.
 
Naturally, this sucks the energy right out of you, but you can learn to read these signs early on and you’ll save yourself from becoming involved with a negative person. These people are toxic and will poison your mind with their negativity.
 
Seek Out People with Positive Attitudes
 
Sometimes you can tell someone is positive just by their outward appearance or the way they conduct themselves. Walking confidently with their head up or even smiling are signs that a person is in a positive mood.
 
Some other signs of a positive person are more intuitive, such as:
  • You get a feeling of familiarity – as if you’ve known the person forever.
  • You feel relaxed, calm, and safe.
  •   You breathe easier.
  •  You lean forward instead of crossing your arms defensively and withdrawing.
  •  You’re at ease with the other person’s touch (hug, handshake, etc.).
  •  You leave their presence feeling energized and alive.
Just as negative people put out a negative energy, positive people have positive energy. These people are nourishing and supportive. Your body can pick up on this and warn you or encourage you depending on the situation.
 
How do we go about finding these positive people we wish to associate with? Much of the above responses are simply felt in our day-to-day associations.
 
However, there are proactive steps we can take to align ourselves with positive people:
  • Find a local community event, club, or group where people challenge themselves and encourage their members to be better people. They will help you set goals for yourself and then achieve them.
     
  •  Participate in online forums or organize your own positive mentoring group. Sometimes it’s impossible to completely avoid certain negative people (perhaps a boss or family member), but you can limit your relationship with them and seek out positive role models elsewhere.
     
  • Utilize your positive support system to prevent the negative people in your life from getting the best of you. Rely on your friends or family when you need to vent to get rid of your negative emotions.
The choices you make in life are yours alone. It’s completely in your power to choose who you are friendly with and whether you want to live a happy life or be miserable.
 
If you feel too much negativity, take control of your life and make some changes to eliminate the negative sources. This will likely take some time but making these changes will help improve your daily mood and remind you that good things are ahead.
 
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avatar Wilko
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The title says "avoid" negative people (sounds a bit negative doesn't it?). But what if you want to help a negative person to become positive? Or what if that person is a family member, that you really love and want to help. How do you start the process of getting them to think positively. Or what if the person has depression and they believe it so strongly that they can't let go of it? Today's shrinks and drug companys has pushed the idea that you will always have depression - you must just live with it (and use their drugs of course). So how do yu get someone like that to become positive, especially if you have to live with them or care for them?
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The difference between deppresion and sorrow/ disapointment/ remorse is that with deppresion nothing matters and with sorrow /dissapointment/ remorse everything matters. One must first identify the difference .Most times it is the latter which we allow to become deppression as we dont realise the difference. Once we see it is because it matters we eel that down we can more easily set a course out of the cycle as we realise it in fact does matter.
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Good point. I will comment based on my personal experience. How I understand it is that you need to help yourself first, so that you can increase your own energy levels, and only after that I think you can help others. Also one of the problems is that often other people do not realize that they are in a negative state of mind, thus their chances of improving themselves are also smaller. I always in the past have tried to change other people around me, just to realize one day that I am wasting my time. I realized this when I started to look at myself and started to change myself. After all I have control of myself and it is therefore easier to change myself. So I focus on that. What I did see is some changes in the people around me at the same time, and that without changing them, but myself instead. Their respect for me increased and therefore they want to know more of what I have to say. Thus my opportunity to influence them increased. I have also learned during this process, that the shortcomings that you see in other people, are most likely your own shortcomings as well. Thus I learned to recognize people for their strengths, and ignore the shortcomings. If someone complain about someone else, I will think about what that person is good at. For example, we have a person at work who irritates people, because this person becomes rude if other people don't do as promised, and it does not matter if there is a legitimate reason. This person is in an administrative position and the position does not require such personality. This makes it difficult for people to work with this person. But isn't this also a strength? If this person is placed in a position such as being a debt collector, I am sure that this person will fit that job perfectly. That is how I changed my perception of that person, and we get along, but my colleages still doesn't. I must say, since I did the Kaizen Wealth Challenge, this is one of the ways that I have changed. I suddenly get along with all the people around me. I even love my wife more each day, and can see that she returns the love, and also influence other people positively. The point that I wanted to make is, start with yourself, and if you do not see results in other people around you, then you still have some work on yourself to do.
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Thanks for your geat reply. I can't agree more! I heard a saying once that goes something like "Be the change you want to see". In other words, first change (invest in) yourself and then the change you wanted should naturally occur, as you so eloquently explained. I will definitely give this a try in my dealings with others.
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