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The Significance of Self-Respect

It is important to look at just why self-respect is significant.

 
Look at it: self-respect enables you to appreciate your entire self. You begin to appreciate the person you are beyond your occupation, your appearance, or your skills. Self-respect enables you to be proud of everything that you are as a person and recognize your worth as a person.

Alternately, the absence of self-respect makes it difficult for you to be honest or confident. Those people who have no self-respect may often be angry at the world, guilty about what they do, be shameful of who they are, and may constantly be regretful of everything that they decide. More than that, without self-respect, you are unable to project a personality that deserves respect.
 
Self-Respect Means Prioritizing Yourself
 
Often, people find themselves slaves to what other people need. While this trait to some extent is laudable, the primary requirement of being of excellent assistance to others is to first fulfill whatever you need satisfied emotionally and physically. Satisfying these primary needs becomes the first step in developing self-respect.
 
Below, Joan’s tale tells us of the detriments of putting what she needed in the backseat:
 
Joan’s friend was someone who depended on her completely to accomplish whatever she needed. Joan’s needs became secondary to whatever her friend needed. For instance, should her friend need a favor, Joan would be more than willing to rearrange everything in her life in order to be there for her friend.
 
While it was okay at the start, Joan began to feel the emotional burden of having to be at her friend’s beck and call all the time. She was more someone who does favors for her friend, rather than a real friend. She was no longer herself, but someone who existed for her friend’s benefit. Her friend even got used to this arrangement.

As a result, Joan soon felt as though she was being used, to the point that she began to resent her friend. Later on, she began avoiding her friend, to the extent that their association now has been severed.

How did this happen?
 
Joan tried to gain her self-respect by trying to be something invaluable for her friend. She was working to be appreciated by someone else, instead of looking at herself as someone who was worth that respect in the first place.
 
·         Her lack of self-respect gave her friend license to take advantage of her.
 
Had Joan taken into consideration of her own life and her own needs first, she would have been able to communicate to her friend what she felt. She would have had the ability to tell her friend that there are things she has to do for herself first before she can attend to her friend’s needs.
 
Had Joan enough self-respect, her friend would’ve respected her as well. They could have stayed friends for longer without feeling resentment for each other over what disrespect they may have felt in the previous arrangement.

·         Take note, there is no fault in trying to be there for other people. However, it is important to be grounded with self-respect so that you are not swayed to forget your own needs.
 
Self-Respect through Mental, Physical, and Spiritual Aspects
 
Self-respect begins by looking at the mental, physical, and spiritual aspects of being a human being.
 
Begin by doing away with looking at yourself negatively, either based on what you look or how smart you feel. These things shouldn’t bother you. After all, the unconditional love that the people around you shower on you is not based on this, but rather, based on who you are as a person. They believe you deserve respect simply because you are you.

·         Self-respect is necessary because whoever you are inside needs you to love yourself, to be patient to your own self, and to respect yourself thoroughly.
 
If you feel flawed in terms of your intellect, your physical inspiration, or your motivation, disregard those feelings and abandon them completely. Recognize the fact that your physical body is where your soul and your mind rest.
 
Self-respect only grows from the love of what you are made of, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Once you have this self-respect, you can then dedicate time and effort in helping out other people.
 
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